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Saturday, November 10, 2007

Amhalish thoughts

Major Cutie is learning to speak so well but many times we get a mix of her Amharic and English. Many times it's not in her language but in her experiences. For the last two nites she has really began talking about her birth family. I find this a remarkable time as we feel closer to each other in these last few days than I have before. It is really starting to feel like a mother/daughter relationship. Love is growing between us both. Last nite she told me she missed Mee Mee, her bio. sister and that she wanted to play with her here. I asked her what kind of things she would like to play with Mee Mee and she told me about games that her and Elizabeth (our bio daughter) play together. She talked about going to school with Mee Mee and then saying she didn't go to school but stayed at home with her mom while she cleaned. She also talked about things she did with her brother yet it sounded more like things she had recently did here, with her new siblings. Tonight as I was getting her ready for bed she told me, " I don't know Daddy in Ethiopia. I cry. I scare. I don't know, I crying." This doesn't make sense to me, although it could to her. I know that her father passed away while her mother was still carrying her (she was 7 months pregnant). Then Major Cutie went on to talk about how I was there and so was Daddy but not Boo or Troy (her new brothers). So I'm not sure what to make of all of this. I think she is mixing her experiences in Ethiopia with her life now. I wonder if others have experienced this with their children who are able to remember life before adoption? This really is an exciting time for me. I love listening to Major Cutie tell me about her memories. What a blessing. I pray she holds tight to her memories and we'll have more to share together as she grows older. Attachment is going very well. Last Sunday Major Cutie was running around with some kids (I let her play with the kids but carry her when we are in the adult service or socializing afterward) and she ran behind a woman and grabbed her legs while "hiding" from the child who was chasing her. She suddenly looked up and realized it wasn't me and ran over to me! This is a big deal cause for a while it didn't matter if she had someone else's legs that was good enough. Now it is beginning to make a difference to her. She is also in this "middle" place I would say in that she isn't sure how to socialize right now. She knows she can't run up to people and pet them, grab them or crawl on them. She knows others can't pick her up, but she is still trying to figure out what she can do. So it comes out like really hyper behavior, lots of goofying off and tons of giggling. I am helping her by telling her to say Hi to so-and-so. She is trying to figure out the "rules" and this is a good sign. So thanks to those that think of us and pray. We are doing good.hey, does anyone know how to get the date off of this picture so it won't cover her beautiful smile?

2 comments:

Debbie said...

You have a beautiful daughter, I am always anxious to hear more of your adventures. IF and when we adopt it will be a daughter about your daughters age. You are doing well with the attachment issues it seems. That is great to hear!

Debbie Wankel

Debbie said...

OH And I can't help you with getting the date of but if you find out let me know!!!

Debbie